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While I don’t know how this gallant tradition ever got started, I do appreciate the old fashioned etiquette of it and am likely to marry the first man who actually does this. I’ve experienced the grand gesture twice in my life.The grand gesture is that moment where your partner has this realization that they can’t live without you so they either stand outside your window playing a song (a la ).You spend hours crafting every single text message with your girlfriends.You play up your social media so he can see how much fun you are having without him.So, you settle for some kind of relationship, if you can even call it that, where you share parts of yourselves, you regularly text, you sleep in each other’s beds but the mention of the word “dating” is not allowed. You go on date after date, and you see a lot of potential.
But more than anything, if I’m making less than my male counterpart, shouldn’t he pay?
I believe, like many people, that women and men are equal and therefore should be treated as such. Also, if I’m willing to pick up the tab sometimes, shouldn’t he?
The gender pay gap has to be closed, the sexism displayed by our government has to be burned to the ground, and the patriarchy has to be destroyed. But I’m also a feminist who still wants some chivalry in my dating life. I’ve never experienced those days and I’d really like that. I don’t expect it, but I sure as hell appreciate it. Getting back to how decency has gone out the window, holding a door open for a woman is considered chivalrous because we live in a society where letting the door slam on anyone, female or male, is almost acceptable.
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