Dating an adoptee
Click for some tips of what you can try to find the other parent.
If you do everything the judge asks and still cannot find the other parent, the judge usually will end the rights of the other parent.
In all these three types, the court ends the parental rights of the child’s two birth parents, and the adoptive parents become the children’s legal parents.
To make sure you follow the right process, answer these questions first: If the answer is to both questions is “yes”, the kind of adoption case you have is a stepparent adoption to confirm parentage.
In some cases, the court will end the other birth parent’s rights anyway even when he or she does not agree.
This is very serious, so the court does not want to do it unless the other birth parent knows about the adoption and has a chance to go to court and tell his or her side to the judge.
If your child’s other birth parent is deceased, let the court know in your adoption request and at your court hearing.
If you are not sure who your child’s other birth parent is (like if there could be 2 fathers, or if 1 man is the biological father but another man raised your child for years), talk to a lawyer. Note: If your child was conceived through artificial insemination with an anonymous donor, and you were the only person involved in the entire process and the only person to sign the sperm bank and hospital records, and you were not married or in a registered domestic partnership, then you probably do not need to get anyone else’s consent. The judge may ask for a letter from the doctor or sperm bank confirming you did the artificial insemination on your own.
That new parent-child relationship is permanent and is exactly the same as that of a birth family.
An adoptive parent can be a stepparent or domestic partner of one of the birth parents, a relative of the child who has been caring for the child, or someone not related to the child by blood.
Talk to a lawyer to make sure you understand what this means and what is best in your situation Fill out the Adoption Request (Form ADOPT-200), Adoption Agreement (Form ADOPT-210), Adoption Order (Form ADOPT-215), and Adoption Expenses (Form ADOPT-230). To see if you will need any special, local forms, contact your court clerk or check your court’s website. If your court’s family law facilitator or self-help center helps people with independent adoptions, ask them to review your paperwork.
Have an interview and investigation with an investigator who then writes a report and files it with the court (and sends you a copy).