Dating during and after divorce
Contemplating the dating scene, many divorced women feel not just garden-variety nerves, but "actual terror," says Dr. Just remember that your fears are normal — after all, you're dealing with or have dealt with a major betrayal and upheaval — and that you don't have to jump all the way in. Tell a few trusted friends that you're interested in meeting people. "Sit down and craft a statement of what, exactly, you're after. If you feel the same way, she offers this advice: "I suggest you try to reframe it as an adventure, or as an education," she says.Accept invitations to parties." While it's not unheard of for a woman wounded by a painful divorce to make statements like "all men are jerks" or "all the good ones are taken," that's obviously not a good mindset to have going into dating, says Dr. "That kind of thinking can tank your mood — and cause you to limit your chances of getting out there and finding love." By forcing yourself to keep your negative thoughts in check, you'll soon be in the habit of thinking optimistically, which will in turn make you more ready to date again. You've decided to start dating — isn't that your "intention" right there? "Dating can be a way to sharpen your social skills too." And, of course, a way to get out of the house and have some fun!Be up-front and respectful, but don't apologize for wanting to date.
Date only on non-custodial weekends and don’t let them know about your new love interest.Your spouse could be watching you and use the dating information in court against you to complicate custody and parenting arrangements.It can also affect how your property rights and financial support are decided.Dating can help you feel more alive and appreciated, less depressed and help you become more social and make new contacts, according to a “Huffington Post” article, “Dating During Divorce.” It can also complicate your need to heal from the divorce, or if you aggravate your kids and soon-to-be ex-spouse, create a financial drain on your income and invite judgment from your family and social contacts.When dating, don’t move in with your new love interest unless you want that to affect your spousal and child support payments or property settlement, advises Gage.