Dating macho men
“Usually, I'll ask them to recognize the challenges in maintaining that status. I don't think there's a man who only has negative attributes.”When it comes to the issue of machismo, much of the discourse is justifiably centered on the ways it affects women; however, by ignoring the negative influence of these attitudes on men, it's difficult to effectively dismantle these damaging ideologies.
If men are the often the perpetrators of violence and oppression, it makes sense to examine how machismo can also wound their psyches.
While he was never physically abusive, he describes his former self as a “typical guy” who felt a sense of ownership over the women he dated.
Because de Leon was eventually able to transform his notions of masculinity, he founded Bromodels to share this knowledge with other young men.
“Two people are instruments and they're there to make music,” he says.“Men are silent sufferers,” agrees Robert de Leon.
“Men have to live up to this standard portrayed in the media, the idea of being 'a real man.' We definitely don't want this label for men.
Latinos and other men from traditionally “sexist cultures” don't have a monopoly on machismo, so why is it that they're so often scapegoated for backwards attitudes when it comes to gender?
“I didn't want to relive the things I saw and have my kids one day see that.”But de LeÃ³n says he could not completely escape that macho mentality.The program is dedicated to “engaging and mobilizing men and boys to prevent violence before it starts” and de Leon and his friends offer free workshops in schools and in the community.“The program is a chance to express who they really are,” he says.“It's a life-changing and life -saving experience.” de Leon hopes to receive funding to expand their programming and reach more young men.Many still continue to permeate the media's representation of Latino men.Machismo, Falicov says, is the greatest representation of patriarchy while sexism is the milder representation of male dominance.