For dating someone older
We’ve been together for 3 years and I just recently proposed to her.Wife and I being the same age, life throws something at us we just go with the flow. Dating a 28 year old when I was 20 was awesome because she was, by far, the most emotionally mature person I'd been with.The only downsides was she was very career oriented whereas I was a High School dropout with a GED just trying to get by.She eventually pushed me to go to college and essentially walked me step by step into going to school.The proportions are wider in that context, and that context does make a big difference.I'm going to make a general statement, and I'm annoyed that I have to say this, but I understand that general statements don't apply person to person.Imagine your brain, the one thing that basically makes you who you are, shit out on you..pass_color_to_child_links a.u-inline.u-margin-left--xs.u-margin-right--sm.u-padding-left--xs.u-padding-right--xs.u-relative.u-absolute.u-absolute--center.u-width--100.u-flex-inline.u-flex-align-self--center.u-flex-justify--between.u-serif-font-main--regular.js-wf-loaded .u-serif-font-main--regular.amp-page .u-serif-font-main--regular.u-border-radius--ellipse.u-hover-bg--black-transparent.web_page .u-hover-bg--black-transparent:hover.
It's not the age gap that's the issue, it's the age of the younger partner. However, it is usually considered very creepy and not quite right. The other stuff I understand, but people with schizophrenia dont ask to have it. A little unfair to judge someone for having a mental illness they cant control.
I get to be the older person sharing wisdom and guidance when necessary and that's cool.
Life is interesting because I'm essentially one life station ahead of her all the time. When she started her career I had just finally landed my first "real" job. This has simultaneously kept me feeling useful and kept me feeling younger than my years.
I felt like I was walking alongside a hooker, just because of the obvious age difference (hate saying that because she was pretty awesome). I've been with someone 15 years older than me, and at 18 people thought it was weird, but when you're 40 and they're 55 it sounds perfectly fine.
At another time we went to a club, and I felt all the women were staring at us. My brother is married to a woman 15 years older than him, but it's the happiest he's ever been. Stopped seeing her after realizing she was a compulsive liar with a mild case of schizophrenia and was still living with her parents.