Hiv positive dating uk
I got lucky for a little while and seriously dated a man for about a year, though I had initially lied to him for two months about my status.
He forgave me and we worked through it, like grown-ups, and had a good time getting to know each other, but the insecurities that came along with the initial deceit led to more baggage than was healthy for either of us.
I kept asking the nurse who took me upstairs at the Margaret Sanger Center in the East Village for a second blood test to confirm the rapid test result.
I was in shock that simply sleeping with probably close to a hundred men throughout my 20s — in college, in Rome, Italy where I lived for five years, in New York City upon my return — and not being strict about using condoms could have such a serious consequence.
That's why I initially avoided the entire conversation when I tried to get my groove back after Matt.
Staying on treatment and keeping my viral load at undetectable levels means that I'm going to lead a long healthy life.But when you're the kind of person who equates dating with dinners, drinks, and casual sex, HIV can put a real damper on all that. Not only was I still trying to figure out what living with HIV meant, I couldn't just do that whole "put on your high heels and get back out there" thing that most newly single people do.Dating with HIV, seriously or casually, is hard — even though it doesn't have to be.Taking care of your health is more adult than playing house with a boyfriend, yet, even though I had been tested for STIs, I had never thought of getting an HIV test.But one day, randomly, I added the HIV rapid test to the list of things to do before intake to my pap smear appointment.