This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.
Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.
How important is it to write a good online dating first email?
The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.
If you read my online dating guide you’ll know that my first 6 months or so I had very little success.
Here’s my short 4-point list of easy to follow ideas: This is an example of how sometimes profiles are too short and give you no clues to who the person is.
With this type of profile, I always felt like simply asking them out on safe date in the first email is fine.
There’s not too much to work with here aside from asking travel questions which, by looking at her profile, probably already happens in every email she receives. I know this looks like nothing but I’ve had success with these types of emails (my wife being the best example…although her profile was actually good!
If you continue to struggle writing your first emails or struggle with getting responses with a service like this, trying a service like e Harmony might be helpful. e Harmony operates in a different way where they control much of the early communication for you.
I have discussed the features of this service a lot on my site so I don’t want to cover all of that again here but I will point out that: , while I met my wife using I felt that it was e Harmony that really helped me become more comfortable with online dating.