Stories of black women dating white men
Maybe you don’t have a particular “Chad” in mind but you watched the royal wedding or back episodes of “Scandal” or even re-watched Sanaa Lathan in “Something New” and you’re curious.
Maybe you have a specific white dude already in mind and you want some insider tips on how to navigate the ebony/ivory road.
Honestly, move over Serena Williams, because you’re in town now!
Whatever the reason, it doesn’t matter to me why you’re reading this article. I’m black, my man is white and we’ve been together for over six years.
She had absolutely no ulterior motive and no shot with me. I hate any kind of exclusive or discriminatory thinking when it comes to race and sex, even when it works in my favor. But in reality as well as on TV and in movies, the highest-profile interracial couples have been white women with black men.
She must have read my mind when she made the disclaimer about finding white men attractive, too. She was a “chocolate queen,” but she was open to other flavors. But from a distance, I’ve noticed that when a straight white woman dates a straight black guy, it’s less likely to be part of a pattern, her were TV’s first interracial married couple, and they were played by Franklin Cover, a white actor, and Roxie Roker, a black actress who was also married to a white man offscreen (TV producer Sy Kravitz, rocker Lenny’s dad).
Contrary to what many white people who find black people more attractive than white people might think, some black people don’t really care. Not only did she love black men, but she could pull in the cream of the chocolate crop, one who had barely aged. He wasn’t a bad-looking guy, but I didn’t think he was any reason to show off to a complete stranger either. She could take that as “Yeah, he’s hot” if she wanted to. By then she’d moved on to new business: the nights she made out with girls.
One of the first things she told me was how attractive she finds black men. In fact, although she complimented my biceps, she made no direct comment on my looks — unless you consider a compliment about “black men” in general a direct compliment to each one of us. This season on Hilary Duff’s Kelsey is in a lust triangle with a white political podcaster and a colleague who happens to be a man of color, and the interracial romance between the characters played by Allison Williams and Daniel Kaluuya was the crux of last year’s Oscar-nominated smash .If you want to, of course, you don’t have to tell him all of our secrets). You may have noticed that the average white dude does not flirt/kick game/holla at a woman in the same way that the average black dude does. He kept calling it “hanging out.” And on these “dates” he didn’t say anything about my body, whether he liked it or what he wanted to do with it — you know standard black dude cues for “I have a romantic interest in you.”White men are super subtle. Because if Chad is shy, and a lot of white dudes are shy, he may get defensive or skittish and say, “No, no, we’re just hanging out.” And that would kill the vibe. If the answer to most or all of these is yes, it may be a date.White men generally flirt in the same way that they conduct business meetings. That’s why I say you may already be dating one because you may have misconstrued the seemingly platonic hangouts you’ve been having with Chad as non romantic, but to him, it’s a date. You may be tempted to be direct and flat out ask him, “Hey Chad, is this a date? Sensitive white dudes scare easily so tread lightly. I wouldn’t get thrown off by whether he makes a move on the first few of these “dates.” Like I said, they can be subtle and shy and slooooow, so give it some time. She was a chatty and congenial Aussie, with a distinctive no-bullshit edge. And a number of biracial celebrities — including Alicia Keys, Drake, Halle Berry, and Wentworth Miller — were born to white mothers and black fathers.Most importantly on a Friday night, she was a straight woman in gay bar who wasn’t playing the I’m-such-a-fabulous-fag-hag card while taking up way more space than necessary. I have a theory about white women and black men, and it goes a little something like this.